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What words to use when talking to someone with a disability

There’s somewhat of a debate about how words should be used when referring to people who have disabilities.

The word handy caped is an appropriate word to use when talking about people with disabilities. Some might say that being physically challenged is a more appropriate word. What about the word crippled, most people would say that’s offensive to use. The word retarded is very offensive to the disabled community but it also could be how you are using the word retard.

What gets lost in all of this is how you say it in the manner you say it.

Yes if you call somebody a retard or cripple then yes that is offensive and it’s not right to talk about somebody with a disability like that.

If you tell somebody to walk and they’re a paraplegic. Didn’t, that’s not good. That’s also very mean as well to sell. Somebody can’t walk to walk somewhere.

The problem with this debate is that people are either too sensitive or too harsh when talking to somebody with a disability.

Yes, words do matter but also how you say it matters as well it is never appropriate to ever call somebody a retard a cripple, or a nothing just because they have a disability.

A very important factor to keep in mind when talking to somebody with a disability is that not all disabilities are the same almost every disability is different and every person with a disability is different as well it all depends on their IQ and the degree of their disability.

One thing to keep in mind when talking to somebody with a disability is that you can easily make them feel like crap I know from experience that’s why I hated High School and well School in general because kids did a very good job making me feel like crap.

Part of the problem why kids are so mean to people with disabilities is that they’re not educated enough and to some degree the parents aren’t educated enough on how to talk to somebody with a disability and to talk to them and not make them feel less than.

Believe it or not, it can be a problem with family members as well especially when it comes to aunts and uncles they don’t know how to talk to their niece or nephew who is disabled they don’t know a positive way to get through to them it a way that’s productive for the aunt or uncle, even for the disabled child. The reason for this issue is that they’re not emotionally involved as a father or mother would be who has a child with a disability.

To be fair there are kids out there that do make an effort to talk to a kid who has a disability but they just don’t know the right words to say or how to say it is it a problem yes it is but that also falls on the parent to a certain degree.

Adults like kids should be educated on disabilities and what they are and why not every disability is the same which is what I said before in other blog posts is a problem with Society a problem with the government not a lot of people pay attention to two people with disabilities or the issues surrounding people with disabilities which is another problem.

The problem with disabilities is that they don’t make stores out there where you can go out and buy a book about different disabilities and what they are and where they came from luckily the internet exists where you can look up stuff and educate yourself that’s one of the good things about the internet is that you can look up stuff like that positive stuff to educate yourself and loved ones about disabilities.

When talking to somebody with a disability ask yourself how would you like to be talked to would you like to be referred to as a retard or stupid dumb. When you think about it it’s not that difficult.

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How do you make love work when your significant other is your caregiver

Love is hard, love is complicated. At least that’s what I’ve heard. I’ve also heard it takes a lot of work.

What do you do when the person you love, the person you are intimate with is your caregiver?

Believe it or not, some able-bodied people have relationships with people who have disabilities and their caregivers as well.

Love or to be in love isn’t easily defined it all depends on the person or persons. It depends on what kind of relationship you want to have, and what you think love is. Also, you can meet that one person who can change another’s mind. It could happen and has happened.

When you are the caregiver and significant other you’re like a nurse or nurse aide but you are also a lover at the same time. It’s not for everybody.

Some able-bodied people turn to religion to get them through. However, some people accept other people for who they are they’re hard to find and there are not a lot of people out there who accept other people for who they are and regard people with disabilities or disabled people.

When you are a caregiver and a significant partner of somebody and you live together you’re together all the time because that’s what it takes when you take care of somebody who needs to get taken care of and who can’t do things on their own.

The drawback to having a significant other who has a disability is that when you get married in some states you don’t have benefits anymore or they get significantly altered.

When it comes to Cole and Charisma Syndor has a YouTube channel called Roll with Charisma and Cole. Cole was disabled in a car accident, his wife was an aide were he rehabbed which is how they met. they had to move to a different state for Cole to have benefits.

Shane and Hannah Burcaw are a little different than Cole or Charisma. Shane has muscular dystrophy atrophy. Shane is very independent he has written books and has also written for a newspaper as well. They have done videos about their lives and Shane’s disability. They are currently doing a podcast.

When it comes to love and disabilities you just have to find the right kind of people to come together and make it work.

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What every adaptive athlete should do while developing

When I was younger, as a kid with a disability I played adaptive sports.

I first played baseball as a young kid. Well, after that, I did track and field, and I played wheelchair basketball.

One of the things I wish I did was keep myself in better shape.

When I was a teenager I made three mistakes as a adaptive athlete.

My first mistake was that I ate what I wanted, and I ate multiple times a day. Not good when you have spina bifida and you’re trying to play sports and stay in shape at the same time. I never sweat but still, I was not in shape to play sports to begin with.

Another mistake I made was not drinking water as I found out in my thirties leading into my 40s helps tremendously with everything it helps with skin care bladder care it helps with the digestive system as well and taking the extra weight off of you if you do have extra weight but I was too young and stupid to understand that but I think I paid for it too. I didn’t understand the importance of drinking water at that age but now that I’m 41 I realize that now. The problem was that I drank too much Pepsi, and to be completely honest the majority of the time I never drank water.

I also wish I catheterized myself better than I did. My entire life I’ve had bladder issues which affected everything in my life.

Being overnight and having a weak bladder is not a good combination, plus not drinking water. It just leads to a lot of problems.

Another issue was that I didn’t practice with the team as much as I should of.

I believe every adaptive athlete should practice whatever sport they’re in drink water and try to eat right whether it be just eating less or eating healthy foods.

If I could tell anybody anything to do the opposite of what I did when I did Sports as a kid I feel like I would have been better off.

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Why people with disabilities should use a physical therapist as a trainer

Some people do think working out is a must-have, a lot of people sometimes can go a little crazy if they don’t work out.

The one thing I’ve noticed about working and being in a gym is that there are a lot of different types of characters that go to the gym.

Depending on the person people with disabilities might want to work out but don’t have the money for a gym membership. Here’s a way to work out and kind of get a trainer. Let me explain.

As a person with a disability, you are entitled to get physical therapy at home, all you need is a script from your doctor and the doctor’s office handles the rest.

The good thing about working with a physical therapist as opposed to a trainer is that a trainer most likely has never worked with people with disabilities.

However, if you do want to work out in a gym you can look for a gym that’s for people with disabilities, the trouble with that is that not a lot of them exist, and the ones that do exist you have to search for a theme which is not that easy.

Now, like everything, there’s a good and a bad to having a physical therapist as a trainer.

You can only have a physical therapist every few months. You can always pay for a gym membership but that could and most likely get expensive.

When thinking about working and you want a trainer ask yourself do you want a trainer? Can I do the exercises on my own? Is it worth paying for a gym membership? What goals do I have for working out? Is any of it worth it? Ask yourself these questions and if any of them is yes then go for it.

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Why being a social worker is one of the worst jobs in the world, why they are important to people with disabilities

Almost my whole life I’ve known that being a social worker can be very difficult because my mom is one herself.

I hear it all the time from my mother about how hard it is to find the simplest thing for somebody can be so difficult. Rather it be her bosses or the company she works for.

Part of the problem is that the programs that are being funded to help people are helping the wrong type of people.

If you’re a drug addict and or an alcoholic there are many resources out there to help. So why do alcoholics keep fucking up? Kind of makes you wonder don’t you think?

I will say if you are a lower-functioning person with a disability then you have almost all the resources that a person can ask for.

I’m not saying don’t ever become a social worker because there is a real need for them. People do need them. It’s just stressful dealing with a limited amount of resources out of the plus dealing with the company that you’re working for.

If you are a medical social worker, then for sure you’re stressed out because of how bad the medical field is in the United States medical system.

Part of the issue is that nurses and social workers have so many patients to see, never mind in one day but in a week. It can be very overwhelming.

The money isn’t bad however there’s a lot of responsibility that comes with that money.

Being a non-medical social worker is difficult as well.

Some social workers leave their jobs to go to another job and they don’t even know what the job entails.

This is where the people congressman and House of Representatives rather it means federal or local government who have some sort of medical degree step in and make changes for more resources out there.

You would think that in the good ole US there that there would be more resources out there that people would care enough to create a better way. Nope. For whatever reason it’s still very tough to get things done for people.

My mother is 62 years old and has done the job for over 30 years, she keeps talking about retirement.

I can’t help but think that if there were better ways to help people and to not give social workers so many patients that means the social workers would want to stay in the field longer.

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Stupid people stay away from people with disabilities, please

Sometimes I wonder why people ask questions, particularly stupid questions. It’s mind-boggling how ignorant and stupid people can get especially when they’re curious, because man people can say the stupidest things.

People can say stupid stuff to their kind. It’s the one stupid thing about humans in general. Let’s face it we all have something to say at times, that can be a good thing and a bad thing.

One of The old sayings is it’s not what you say but how you say it. It also depends on the question you ask as well.

Here are some ways not to look like an idiot in front of somebody who has a disability.

Don’t assume somebody has a guardian, yes Embarrassing things can happen to somebody who has a disability. Anybody on any given day can get embarrassed. Another thing is just because somebody is different from you doesn’t mean they need a guardian.

One of the things that really piss me off is when you go to an event and the event staff want let you sit in a certain place because your in a wheelchair and they think you’re unsafe. It’s a good thing people can record crap like that on there phones. Nobody likes to look stupid in front of the world.

Do people with disabilities a favor don’t talk down to them like they’re a child. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment at all. Not to mention it makes the person talking like that incredibly stupid.

At the end of the day we all can do better.

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Working at high school sporting events is great for people with disabilities, hers why

You’ve seen it on ESPN time and time again, People with disabilities working with non-disabled people who do sports is one of the best things a parent of a child who has a disability can do for their kid.

My favorite sport growing up was basketball, so as a person who has a disability, I worked the basketball games keeping track of fouls. One day I used to go to basketball games when I was in high school student, I can remember one day I was approached by the athletic director at the time if I wanted to keep track of fouls so I did, and the best part of it is that I got paid.

Dong that, at the time was one if not the only bright spot from high school, mainly I was participating in a sport that was my favorite and did I mention it paid?

As ESPN has documented working as a high school manager can be good not just for people with disabilities but it can be good for the non-disabled people on the team.

People on the team get to know the kid with a disability as a person not just that kid with a disability who’s working on the team as a person with a disability.

Kids need guidance in life and need to have life lessons to teach them what life is like.

Having a person with a disability work on a high school team sport is invaluable because the person with a disability can learn from the non-disabled person and vice versa.

Kids need to be taught at a young age to work together whether they have a disability or not, It can only make the world a better place because the world needs it.

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Paraplegics should accept the truth, there will never be a cure

I’ve been a wheelchair user my entire life so I’ve gotten comfortable with using a wheelchair. Let me be clear I don’t love being in a wheelchair, but I’ve accepted it.

Unfortunately, more and more people who are wheelchair users need to get used to the idea of being in a wheelchair, at least in America.

Sure there are all kinds of research for different things, but because of the politics involving research for people to walk again ever.

Another reason why people will never walk unfortunately is that there’s just too much money that not only medical supplies companies make just off of people with people who can’t walk it’s the company that makes the products. Also, there’s no telling how many hospitals and nursing homes make.

It’s pretty sad to think that companies make money off of people who need the most help, but that’s how the world works.

Is it the end of the world People can walk? no.

So, what’s the answer? The answer is to live your life to the best of your ability and make the best of it.

question, Is it the end of the world? answer no. Could it be better? Absolutely yes.

Somebody in the medical field and a little help from the government there could be hope someday.

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Is Porn good for men who have disabilities, does it have a purpose?

Why do men with disabilities watch porn? Is it stimulating? Does it feel good? Does it feed a need? I would say, yes, yes, and yes.

Speaking from my own experience it’s tough to make a connection with ladies, mainly because you don’t know what their intentions are, and what they’re thinking. Every encounter I’ve had with a woman I’m always left trying to figure out what they’re thinking. why are they doing what they’re doing? In some cases, I ask myself what did I do wrong.

I’ve wondered for quite some time now. Does watching porn help with the anxiety of trying to find a girlfriend or does it make men antisocial?

Not a lot of able-bodied women find a disabled man attractive. There are a few out there just not a lot.

Porn takes the pressure off. You don’t have to worry about talking to a woman and guessing what she is thinking, or what her expectations are you can just watch and not worry about rejection or just not worrying about the unknown.

For whatever reason when I turned 30 years old I stopped worrying if about if I could or would get a girlfriend. I’m 41 years old now and yes I do watch porn not every day but I do watch it.

I’m only human though, as a person with a disability I do once in a while think about if I’ll ever wind up with a significant other, it’s not my priority but I do think about it.

When watching porn you do need a sense of reality. Sex that happens in porn doesn’t necessarily happen in the real world.

Who is porn for when it comes to people with disabilities? If you don’t want and you just watch porn to fulfill a man’s needs? If you’re not hurting anybody why not watch porn?

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A few ways to determine if you got the right specialist

You don’t need to be best friends with your specialist however making sure you have a doctor with whom you are comfortable and you’re on the same page could help tremendously. Here are a few things that I consider when I work with a specialist.

So one thing to keep in mind is if your doctor is confident yet not cocky or that he knows everything. Some doctors think there god, but they are not, they are people just like you and me. Do they know more than you yes, however, they don’t know everything.

The second thing to keep in mind is that they are not your best friend they are your doctor. The more professional your doctor is the better the treatment you’ll get. Expected your doctor to be professional.

Have good communication with your doctor listen to your doctor but also be comfortable with what the doctor has to say.

Another thing to ask yourself do I need a procedure is it necessary to have a procedure listen to your body leave it or not your doctor doesn’t know your body you know your body better than anybody else. Nobody can tell you what to do with your body.

Are you comfortable with what hospital your doctor is working out of? Not every hospital has a good reputation. It’s perfectly fine with seeing what hospital will be taking care of you.

One thing you can do for yourself is that if you have an opportunity to get a procedure that could improve your life then do it. If you can be a good patient, know your rights, if your not happy with what your specialist has to say then get a new one and don’t be difficult to deal with. If you don’t like what your current specialist has to say then move on to a different specialist, period.

All of this is crucial for people who are born with congenital birth defects because let’s face it people with disabilities are born sick and need doctors almost all their lives to survive and live we have to depend on medicine but we also have a say on how we get treated.

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Mainstream TV media could care less about people with disabilities, why is that?

Earthquakes Terror tornadoes monkeypox the sky is falling at least that’s what the media wants you to think you know what the media doesn’t talk about is issues around people with disabilities they never talk about issues surrounding people with disabilities.

Why does the media talk about everything under the sun but when it comes to issues surrounding people with disabilities they’re hardly or never there especially when it comes to TV media the old saying is if it doesn’t bleed it doesn’t lead.

Here are five issues that the media could talk about to make people with disabilities’ lives better.

Products: the cost of living when you have a disability when it comes to equipment and medical supplies is astronomical the unfortunate thing about medical equipment is that sometimes they’re not always covered and you have to work around what is covered shower chairs are not covered but the media doesn’t talk about that people with disabilities need to take showers at least wheelchair-bound because you can easily develop pressure sores.

How Nursing homes are run: if the media covered what went on in nursing homes and how they run then nursing homes with probably be better than what they are now granted they’re not as bad as they used to be but they still need work because serious things could happen to innocent people a lot of times people with disabilities end up in nursing homes because their insurance is don’t pay for Inpatient Rehab but that never gets covered only on YouTube.

Transportation: not a lot of people particularly paraplegics Drive because it’s so expensive to drive it’s it’s an issue that never gets covered never gets talked about because there’s no such show to talk about the transportation issue and even public transportation is a bit of a mess but it doesn’t always get covered at least by the TV media if it got covered by the TV media it probably would be get better but because it’s not sexy it doesn’t get covered.

Job rate: the job rate in America is pretty poor however there are alternatives out there like being a social media influencer but not everybody can be a social media influencer, not everybody wants to be a social media influencer to be Fair stores are almost thing of the past considering how there’s online shopping but it would be nice if the media would cover the job rate of unemployed people with disabilities because it’s pretty high with no end in sight.

Sporting events: sporting events for people with disabilities have gotten a little better however I could be better just covering the Special Olympics and Paralympics is not enough there are a lot of adaptive Sports out there that are competitive and worth watching but the media for whatever reason doesn’t want to take the time to cover competitive adaptive Sports probably because they think it won’t generate that much money and probably because they rely on sponsors which is another issue sponsors probably don’t think that adaptive sports are worth their time at least not seriously.

If the media would ever talk about issues that people with disabilities are dealing with the world would be a better place because it would bring awareness where awareness is not found with people with disabilities.

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Adaptive Sports aren’t always good for people with disabilities here’s why

Adaptive sports are a wonderful thing for the disabled community. It gives people a chance to bond and find command ground with one another. It can help people form new connections that could last a lifetime.

With all the good that adaptive Sports does it can be bad for the disabled community.

When it comes to functions and events sometimes not every person with a disability needs to come together.

There are functions and sports where people with different disabilities find themselves grouped. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again not every person with a disability needs to be paired together.

Not every disability is the same. I know that it’s not popular to say that but there are high-functioning and low-functioning people with disabilities. Because there are low and high-functioning people with disabilities is the reason why they need to be separated.

When you pair the two it stops the growth and even the fun for high-functioning people with disabilities.

It can make that high-functioning person feel miserable and lonely after a while.

The harsh truth about high and low-functioning people is that high-functioning people have a better chance of succeeding in life in the best way possible.

High-functioning people with disabilities need to be around other high-functioning people with disabilities to have the best chance in life to succeed.

There are high-functioning people with developmental issues, however working together with somebody similar can only help.

When it comes to sports it’s pretty much the same thing. Playing with somebody with the same functionality as you can only help you grow as a person.

The Problem with Society is that there are people who think every person with a disability is the same. If that doesn’t change we will never see people with disabilities live to their full potential.

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When do you know somebody is attracted to you?

To some people, flirting comes naturally to others it’s very difficult to approach somebody. You take a chance of somebody liking you or misreading signals. getting a person’s signal wrong could be embarrassing.

When it comes to flirting with someone can a person tell when another person likes that person

When a person with a disability flirts with a non-disabled person is taking a risk.

For the disabled person, it’s taking a risk because you don’t know if that able-bodied person accepts people with disabilities as a partner.

The shitty thing about life is that not everybody wants or cares to be with somebody who has a disability. Some people may think they can at first but then once they get in deep they find out it’s too much for them.

What is the right answer for a person with a disability to flirt with an able-bodied person? Well, there isn’t. You see humans are humans. People are going to do what they’re going to do.

At the end of the day if you like taking chances then take a chance. On the other side, nobody wants to get hurt.

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Important tips to know for rehabilitation

Rehabbing can hospitals, aggravating, and lonely, however, doing simple things and knowing certain things will help anybody have a successful Rehabilitation completion. Here are a few simple steps to help you get by the hard times of rehabbing, knowing your rights is crucial to a great rehab stay.

Step one: Order out. If you have some extra cash door dashing will help. Let’s face it when it comes to eating something good. Hospital and nursing home food are not very tasty so getting food from your favorite restaurants is an absolute must need. Food could help anybody feel better.

Step two: do the work, do what’s asked of you at your own pace. If you’re not comfortable doing something let your voice be heard. Don’t ever be bashful about your voice being heard. However, you are there to get better, to heal do the work, and get it over with.

Step three: if possible make friends. If there’s an opportunity to play any type of game, especially with someone who is in a similar situation like you it helps the time go by faster. Playing games will help you deal with rehab mentally, it will help.

Set four: if you’re in a wheelchair wheel around the unit you are on. Don’t live in your room. Yes, you sleep in there but get out, you won’t regret it. Of course, if you can walk then walk. Walking never hurts anybody if you can walk to walk around, it keeps the mind and body going.

Step five: know the law and know your rights. If you feel like something is wrong in the nursing home let the administrator know. If nothing happens call the state and anybody that works in the nursing home hates the idea of the state coming in. The hospital is a little different. Yes if something is wrong you should contact the administration but also don’t be afraid to take legal action. In more blunt terms get a lawyer. The hospital will never tell you this but you have the right to refuse anything.

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Is Delta on the cusp of making history for paralyzed Flyers

Today I talk about flying and how inaccessible it is for wheelchair users, also could Delta Air Lines make positive changes for wheelchair users?

Will we ever see a positive change in flying for wheelchair users?
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Tips for getting from A to B while using transportation

This is a guide to getting to your destination, making a successful trip while using several things to get to your destination.

1. Use your phone’s GPS wisely: make sure where you’re going you have the correct addresses and use your phone’s GPS.

2. Don’t be afraid to ask: be patient and ask the bus driver where to go it is their job to know the bus route and to direct you the right way to get to your destination.

3. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes: the first time using transportation you may make mistakes and in the wrong area, stay calm and ask the bus drivers where to go because it’s their job to guide you in the right direction where to go and also again use your GPS to find your destination.

4. Know the coast: it wouldn’t hurt North, East, West, and South, you’ll be able to get to where you need to go faster.

Final thought: rather you are in a manual wheelchair or a power wheelchair it is possible to go places, live your life, and get around.

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In a perfect world, hospitals should replace nursing homes, here’s why

The harsh truth about nursing homes is that they just don’t work.

Nursing home staff are often overworked and underpaid. Nursing home staff are often understaffed which happens all the time in nursing homes.

Nursing homes have several units and the smaller ones than the other ones are the best ones to be on because they’re easier to manage.

Nursing homes have this stupid habit of pulling staff from big units to smaller ones creating shortages in staff. It creates a big problem for nursing homes. A staff member is left to do a two-person job all by themselves. This creates situations of a staff member getting hurt more frequently.

Hospitals are often understaffed as well, however, they handle it better.

The nursing home issue is an issue that the government needs to take a look at. Don’t get me wrong nursing homes have improved from what they used to be. It still has a long way to go.

It doesn’t make sense that a floor in a hospital can manage having short staff yet a nursing home can barely keep up.

It’s not to say hospitals don’t have their problems, they do. There are some hospitals out there that struggle with patient care, however, it usually happens on a specific floor.

Nothing ever going to change unless government and the medical field come together and try to solve the problem by putting into laws to solve the problem that continues to exist.

The problem with health care is that profit comes from helping people. It’s sad but money comes over helping people in the medical field.

We will never see change unless we put people over money which could never happen.

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Should people with disabilities vote? Does it matter?

Barack Obama was one of the best presidents that the United States has had there have been a lot of good presidents but one thing that comes to mind when it comes to presidents is the disabled vote and should people with disabilities vote because with every presidency not a lot of things improve people with disabilities.

You always hear about Working Families every politician talks about Working Families and the economy also immigration and other things but what you don’t hear is politicians talking about people with disabilities and how to improve their lives and the issues that people with disabilities face daily.

There’s a real problem with politics in general is because everybody has a different opinion that’s why we have two parties because two parties believe in different things why should we have two parties everybody should believe in what’s right for people in general no matter where they’re from what gender they are what sexuality Preference they have but that’s not the case.

Don’t get me wrong not everybody with a disability is struggling not everybody with a disability needs help from the government there are people with disabilities that have jobs just like the Able Body person but there is a certain percentage of people with disabilities that get caught in the system and rely on government help which isn’t all that great.

Everybody acts like the world is going to fall when a president is put in office when it’s not just the president of the United States it’s the Congress it’s the House of Representatives that all need to work together to shape the country of what it should look like.

The Adults with Disabilities Act is a great law to have for people with disabilities it’s not perfect and it needs work even to this day but politicians want to want to focus on other things besides improving the Adults with disability act (ADA for short).

Another thing that should be improved is our Aviation laws no person with a disability should be able to fly the way that the current system is there need to be laws to ensure that people with disabilities can fly with dignity and not be treated like nothing because it happens way too frequently.

We need to make sure that people with disabilities have the opportunity to work by having good work programs for people with disabilities that want them.

Not caring about people with disabilities is a societal problem, in general, I know as a person with a disability who feels like nobody cares and that there’s just a lack of awareness about what people with disabilities deserve to have.

I would urge people with disabilities who are thinking about voting to consider one thing will the person that’s running help improve disabled people’s lives it sure looks like it will never happen.

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I may have spina bifida, in a wheelchair, but I don’t care about losing weight

If you weigh over 300 lb immediately internal medicine doctors freak out, if the blood pressure is slightly high when I mean slightly high, internal medicine doctors (at least some) say to change your diet.

I once met a doctor who told me it’s not what you eat it’s how much that counts.

There are a lot of issues with being obese or fat. There are health problems that come with being fat.

I have an unpopular opinion about being skinny. That opinion is that I have no desire to be skinny.

Doctors will tell you about obesity and what could happen. They don’t say it’s going to happen, they just say what could happen.

I got a news flash for all those doctors. I don’t want to be skinny. It’s just not on my priority list.

I’m not trying to put up as much weight as I can, at the same time, could care less about being skinny.

In actuality, my ideal weight would be around 300 lb and not exceed 300.

There are serious issues with being obese when you are wheelchair-bound because the heavier you are the more restricted you are in getting the wheelchair you want because each wheelchair has a weight limit.

I actually wouldn’t mind being 295 I wouldn’t want to be 500 lb now that’s ridiculous even though I understand that.

Some diets out there’ll say you can eat what you want okay well guess what breaking news that’s what I’m going to do.

I’m not saying forget what the doctor says I’m saying use your instincts listen to your body and go by how you feel that’s what I do.

Most days I eat one meal a day and have one to two pops a day but I drink bottled water every day as well. I drink two to three bottles a day or just drink smart water.

At the end of the day drink a few bottled waters a day eat a little and don’t go over 360 lb.

I’m not a doctor nor have I ever played one on TV I’m just giving advice that I think works for me because at the end of the day doctors don’t have all the answers and when they do say something they say something to contradict what they said before not all the time but it happens

I understand that I have a disability and that I can’t walk but I’m not going to do something that a person who has never been in a wheelchair before tells me how I should eat especially when he says the word could in a sentence that means could happen not happen.

I will say it’s a person’s right if they want to work with their doctor or not about their health it’s all up to the individual.

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My experience with transurethral Incision of the prostate, why you should know about my experience with the surgery

I catheterize myself every day and have been for a long time now I noticed when I got to my late 30s I couldn’t pass the catheter as well as I used so one day after my Botox treatment for bladder incontinence my urologist suggested a procedure to help pass the catheter a little better.

My urologist said it would be beneficial and he also said that it could make me leak. He was going to do with the procedure at my next Botox injection little did I know what I was getting myself into by not waiting until my next Botox ejection and just doing the procedure by itself.

This procedure cost me my whole summer and also my life at least I think here’s why.

Right after the Botox treatment, I had I decided just 3 weeks later to do the operation which was an outpatient which shouldn’t have been an outpatient surgery in the first place but nowadays every surgery is an outpatient surgery.

Right before the operation I met with my urologist and he told me that I needed a fully-catheter for a week so I told him that he need to admit me because I wasn’t about to go home with a foreign object in my urethra It would have greatly decreased My independence.

My urologist did admit me only for a couple of days and then I went to a nursing home in a Subacute unit.

As I was in the nursing home I noticed that I was leaking more than normal.

When I got home the leaking continued so I called my urologist and he said to go to the emergency room and have his team look at me. So I went to the emergency room and had one of his residents look at me. Again they put a fully-catheter in me and we were going to send me home I was not having that.

After causing hell in the emergency room on my part they admitted me again to the hospital. While I was in the hospital I again was waiting to go back to the nursing home. I was admitted to what the hospital calls a short stay unit until they could find me a nursing home to Place me.

Just a couple of days after being in the hospital I Was preparing to go to the nursing home but I had a few complications that stopped me from going to the nursing home.

My first complication was when a nurse Tech took my temperature and I all of a sudden had a fever out of nowhere. They did a bunch of tests and couldn’t find anything.

After a day or two they decided to take the fully-catheter out and I was able to calf myself and get good output which I wasn’t getting good output before.

I remember things were looking up and it looked like I didn’t have to go to a nursing home I could just go home back to my apartment little did I know what would happen next.

So one day after getting the fully-catheter taken out I tried to cast myself and I couldn’t I also realized that I was in some pain and there was some blood so they called the resident on call and he had to scope a fully-catheter inside my urethra and found that I had a blood clot.

The blood clot was so bad they had to scope the fully-catheter in and even then I was in pain and was losing a lot of blood because of the blood clot.

After hours of being in pain, they finally took out the blood clot surgically.

After the surgery, the urologist who is my current urologist went out and talked to my mom and he told her that my bladder was the size of a peach and that the blood clot was the size of a cantaloupe.

That was one of the worst experiences I’ve ever experienced.

All of this happened during the summer before the Covid pandemic.

With all of that said I think what caused the blood clot was the fully-catheter that was inside me I’m not a fan of fully-catheters and I think they’re more of a negative than a positive because they are plastic.

One piece of advice I would give to anyone who has medical issues and is about to have a procedure do research and find out the pros and cons of that procedure.