A guide for Future parents of a disabled child

I don’t know everything; I don’t have kids, I do not have a wife or a girlfriend. However, I am a man with a disability who is a single mom raised without a father.

My family consisted of my mom, sister, my grandparents, my two aunts, and my two uncles.

However, I am a blogger, and as a blogger, and as a blogger with a disability, I do think about how the United States and people could be better towards people with disabilities.

This post goes out to families who are expecting or have a baby with somebody who has a disability.

Don’t get me wrong, nobody is perfect, and I don’t have all the answers to everything; however, as a person with a disability who grew up with a single mom without a father, I feel like my life could have been better if my biological father and my mom did things differently.

Let me share with you all what my mom and parents, in general, could do to make kids with disabilities lives better.

If you find out that a kid has a disability and you’re not sure you can handle taking care of a kid with a disability, consider adoption. I mean, we know you might find a person or a couple out there who can’t have children that want somebody to love and care for.

Regardless of what kind of disability a kid is born with, they still have a chance to have a fulfilling and productive life.

Reading is essential in life. Read books with your kids and use a dictionary so they can sound words out. Dictionaries are a game changer.

Get them involved in adaptive Sports. There are several adaptive Sports out there that are great for meeting people and keeping in shape.

It can be tricky looking for adaptive Sports, so look up adaptive Sports in your area.

When it comes to siblings, if you have a non-disabled kid with your disabled kid, make sure that the non-disabled kid understands what’s going on with your disabled kid so they have a chance to have the best sibling relationship they can have.

The last piece of advice I can give to families is to treat your kids almost as if they were non-disabled. Treating them like any other kid will help them in the future.

Now, I want to talk to all the single mothers out there. If you’re going to date, then find someone who not only accepts you but accepts that you have a disabled child and has a natural bond with them. Don’t just date anybody because that person could be the worst in that kid’s life, and people with disabilities already have obstacles.

Okay, one last paragraph. This time, I want to talk to all the men out there. If you knock up a woman, act like a man and stay with that woman regardless if that woman is going to have a kid with a disability or has given birth. If you find out that your son or daughter has a disability, remember that it’s not about you. It’s about ensuring they have the best life possible, so man up. Not having a father figure in a kid’s life can hurt a kid emotionally.

I feel like I had to say something to all the men out there. Not having a positive male in my life affected me as a child.

I’m not saying I know everything; I think about things, maybe too much.


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