I used to know a kid named Sam Zink. Sam was a kid I did track and field with, did karate with, and I even went to school with as well.

Sam was born without a disability until one day his parents found out he had a brain tumor, well the doctors were able to cure him but he was never the same.

You see Sam did what people with disabilities should never do. Feel sorry for themselves.

Sam would always act weird around non-disabled people, he would act in a way that at least I think that people would feel sorry for him.

Nobody in this world unless they are dying of cancer or are in a wheelchair stuck on a breathing tube unable to use their arms and legs should feel sorry for themselves.

Let’s face it: people with disabilities like myself have and will endure a lot. It sucks, but going around being miserable isn’t going to change a damn thing, not today, not tomorrow, or any other day. It’s just not going to happen.

The way I look at it, if you do what makes you happy, like watching TV shows or playing games, if you enjoy it and are not hurting anybody, then do it.

Some people lie to themselves because they think they’re making themselves feel better, but in reality, they’re just putting a Band-Aid on something that will haunt them later because they didn’t deal with it then.

Accepting something negative is very healthy and needed for mental health and to live a better life abiding by the shit that happens. Believe it or not, we’ll make you a better person.

Pretending like everything is okay when it’s not, it’s not good at all. However, being miserable all the time is not a good thing at all, either. That’s why doing something you like rather than reading a book, working out, or watching TV shows, whatever it may be, is necessary and very important for dealing with adversity.

If you don’t have anybody to talk to, call your insurance to find out what counselors you can go to that take your insurance to speak to somebody about what’s going on in your life, all the bad things that are going on in your life, it’s worth it better than just pretending like things are always good nothing terrible ever happens.

If you have a hard time finding somebody to be friends with or to have a significant other, being alone is not such a bad thing if it will help with coping.

One of the unfortunate things about life that I found out is that if people aren’t related to you, they’re not always going to be there to help you. They’ll tell you that they’ll help you, they’ll say this and that, but unfortunately, more times than not, they will not be there at all. That’s why it’s always good to do things on your own and figure things out on your own. And depend on people who get paid to help people; you’ll be better off. The unfortunate thing about life is that sometimes, even people you are related to will never be there. We’ll say they’ll do this and do that but never show up or hardly, not necessarily because they don’t care but because they have their own lives to worry about or business they have to take care of.

Bottom line, don’t feel sorry for yourself. Stop making excuses. Please don’t depend on people unless they get paid for you to rely on them and help yourself.